Have you ever thoughtabout what it takes to be confident on stage? Then you go on stage and youstart to shiver, shake and stutter. What is it that makes someone confident onstage and others not as confident?
Is there a secret tobecoming confident? No!
Is there a specialtechnique to becoming confident? Maybe, let’s find out!
Some people sayconfidence is one of those things that you have or you don’t have. Well, thatis false. Confidence is a state, which we can shift into or out anytime we desire.When it comes to confidence, there are two types: internal confidence andexternal confidence. Let’s discover what the difference of each style and howwe can acquire confidence and embrace a confident state!
Internal Confidence
People who are confidentinternally are courageous, brave and powerful. They believe in themselves andthey can tackle any challenges that come their way. It doesn’t mean that theyknow how to do it, but they willing to do whatever it take to make it happen.That is a belief that they have in themselves. What can we do and how can wedevelop internal confidence? The easiest way to develop internal state of confidence is to tell yourself that you are and accept it.When you have limiting beliefs, push it aside and focus on the positiveaccomplishments, traits, and personalities that you have. You can also cementthese positive thoughts by taking action and doing what you say you are goingto do. Taking action and creating results is your fast track to developing internal confidence. It providesconcrete proof that you can achieve what you say you set out to do!
What happens when you donot have the luxury to develop that skill and you need confidence right away?
Perceived Confidence
The best way to have confidenceis to develop inner confidence as you can take that wherever you go. However,if push comes to shove and you need to show up confidently to perform or youare not having a good day. There is another style of confidence calledperceived confidence. It is temporary and external. Let us look at a fewdifferent ways we can show up confidently.
Dress to Impress
First, the easiest wayto express confidence is to dress to impress. For men, dress in a gray or blacksuit. Gray is a colour that shows neutrality and controlled. It is a colour thatblends well and since it is a colour of being in control, it is easy to beperceived as confident. Black represents authority and power. These two colourswill match with any other colours you want to wear with your suit.
As for women, you canalso use gray and black as well. As the colours holds the same presence. Youcan also mix it with your own personal colour such as red, yellow, blue andorange. It will add flavor to your dress code and make you stand out.
Keep Your Head Up
Another importantcomponent for perceived confidence is your posture. With a strong posture, itcreates a powerful presence that people see in you. You can start by standingtall with your head up high and your back straight. If you are sitting, you can sit with your backstraight up. It will not only make you a few inches taller, but it will alsosay that you are ready for action. You can also push out your chest out alittle to express more confidence because that shows that you are willing toembrace the moment.
Be Grounded
The final magicingredient is your state of mind. Even though you do not have to be in a stateof confidence, you do need to be grounded. It is when you are relaxed, calm andcollected. Well, what happens if you are angry, sad or frustrated, how do youshift your state? Changing your state of mind can be as easy as snapping yourfinger. It is what you tell yourself and the actions you take to align with it.For example, if you want to be excited say, “I’m excited,” and do somethingexciting such as giving your friend a high five or run up and down the stairs.When you get your body moving, it will shift your energy and your state. Thus,when you want to be relaxed, calm and collected, find a bench and meditate fora few minutes and get yourself there. Then do a few jumping jacks and yourenergy will shift. As long as you state the mood and take action, you willshift!
Confidence is somethingyou show up with. If you have trouble being confident, take time and to prepare yourself and show upbeing perceived as confident! When you can combine both perceived and internalconfidence, you will shine like a morning star!
To learn more about whatyou can do to improve your confidence, start taking action towards becomingconfident. Training yourself to attain internal confidence takes time anddiscipline. However, you can speed up the process by reaching out and askingfor support. At www.inspirationalex.com, you can hire a coach to helpyou accelerate your learning and improve your confidence!